Some good news

So I got an email from the new agency I'm working with. They are accepting all the paperwork from the past agency. Yipeee. I don't have to do anymore paperwork. I have to adjust my birthparent letter a bit to their format, but I'm fine with that. As for my missing bank draft, it's still missing and they asked me to give them until the end of March for it to show up. Well it hasn't yet, so I guess I'll be asking for my money from them tomorrow and maybe to a lawyer if things go sideways. I'm anxious, but we'll see what happens . . .

Still mad

Well, I talked to the agency that lost my bank draft in the mail and they have asked me to give it another week, so I'm waiting to yell and threaten legal action until next Monday. On the other hand the new agency in Utah and my BC agency have signed an agreement so I can forward my dossier on to them. So I 'might' actually be registered and going forward again. Instead of the being stuck in a whirlpool, like I have been the last month!

sad and mad and a warning

Well up to this point in my adoption journey I had thought things had gone really well. A few ups and downs, but everyone has those right?? We'll I guess I can now sympatize with the other blogs I follow where people occasionally post that they are blue. I have been blue and crying too now. With all my documents lost and my bank draft for $6500 US dollars being lost that certainly did it. My documents were found, but my bank draft is still lost. On Feb 17th it was mailed to me from Utah in REGULAR mail. So in my opinion they are completely stupid. So when it wasn't in the mail today I went to my bank to attempt to cancel it. Here is the warning part, you can't cancel a bank draft and they have no expiration date, unlike regular cheques. So while I could report it lost and the money was put back in my account, if any one finds it and cashes it they will remove the money from my account. So I certainly at this point can't use that money. I'm going to yell at them on Monday and tell them it is their fault but I'm not sure if it will get me anywhere.

Red tape

I should be used to the time things take in the adoption world, but it does still amaze me. I faxed off a release of information form to the agency I was using in Utah to release my file to the new agency I'm using in Utah. I faxed in the form on Feb 18, so yesterday I phoned the agency to see if they had received my file yet. Sigh ... No they had not, they would follow up with them and let me know. Sigh... They didn't call me yesterday or today. So I guess I'll phone everyone tomorrow again. It seems if you don't keep on top of everything all the time, that nothing happens. Sigh.

AHHH!!

So I've put off doing this post for a bit now but here goes. Last week on Monday night I received a call from my agency in Utah. They said they were concerned about the amount I said the adoption could cost. They thought it was unrealistically low and would be hard to make a match at that level. I was mad as they had had my file for a month and they couldn't have told me sooner?? Anyways I called my mom and she generously offered some funds (turned out I didn't need them, but was so stunned and thrilled with the offer). I called my bank where i have the adoption loan through and was able to increase the amount with them. Then I got an email from The adoption centre in Kelowna saying that they needed to talk to me. I figured it was just about the funds, so no biggie. Boy was I wrong. They said that the Utah agency only had a temporary Hague license and it was going to expire on March 31 and they were not going to get a full certification. So they either needed to match me with a mom before March 31 or they wouldn't be able to do my adoption. So then I called Utah, they basically said that they wanted to drop me as they didn't think they could match me that soon. They would give back my money, except the registration fee. So that was last thursday and I was really upset as this ment I needed to start over with a new agency. They recommended one. I checked out the agency they recommended and they look good. They assure me that much of it should be transferable, but well see. At least I'm not in limbo mode anymore.

Not all the paperwork :(

So after sending in all the paperwork I thought was needed. I found out I needed to read 2 books on adoption and complete questions on them and to attend a child care class. So I read the 2 boooks and sent off the questions on Monday. One of the books " Raising Adopted Children by Lois Melina was quite good. But I did have to say I felt like I was back in highschool doing a book report :) As for the child care class, that gave me pause for a bit. I have decided the best option in my small rural town is to take prenatal classes! So i am signed up to attend the class on Feb 15th dealing with the care of a newborn. After explaining to the public health nurse, I was told I could leave half way through as the last half of the class is on breathing during labour! This is a late prenatal class, so i expect I will feel a bit wierd being in a class with woman that are very obviously pregnant. They are certainly going to wonder why I'm there! But after that I should be done everything :) again!

All Documents submitted

I'm thrilled all the paperwork is done!!! YAH!! I mailed off the approved birthparent letters and fast track letters on Dec 30th. I got an email confirming that all the documents were received by the Adoption Centre of BC in Kelowna and will be mailed off to Utah, by the end of the week! So I went to the bank today for a bank draft and have paid the processing and file activation fee! So as soon as all the documents are reviewed in Utah, then I'll be officially on the waitlist!!! Which is just about when I had predicted (being on the waitlist by the beginning of January) and wanted. Today is a good day!